300 Ways It Can Hurt to Be a Man

Contemporary gender discourse has left many men unseen. On one end of the debate, there are feminists: a largely virtuous group of people who have regrettably failed to understand men as more than defect women, and who have neglected to include men in their humanizing frameworks. On the other end, there are men whose visions of masculinity remain primarily rooted in outdated and often harmful ideas, and whose attitudes towards women frequently leave much to be desired. The modern man is stuck in a quagmire. Where does he turn, who has listened to women's pain but now desires to integrate his own? New voices on gender are needed. It is my hope that in this book, empathetic men may find their voice.

It is not needed to contest who suffers more, and suffering is not the whole of masculinity; nevertheless, it is a part of it, and it deserves an uninterrupted space in which it may be witnessed: known, and moreover allowed. It is my hope that in this book, unloved men may take off their heart's armour and find their sanctuary.

Even in these polarized times, many women still seek to know men truly, and through this have seen that being male marks men more deeply than society has cared to make known. It is my hope that in this book, compassionate women may find their love reflected.

At a length of 384 items, this list can be daunting in size. For those who want an effortless way to read this work, I provide a live reading at x.com/300waysproject, where the entire list is automagically tweeted out at the regular, steady pace of three items per day. Don't worry if you're late; you can jump in anywhere.

On top of the list itself, this full book adds an Introduction, Disclaimers, a loving Conclusion, and numerous suggestions for Further Reading, plus a brief 2025 reflection. It revises, collates, and aesthetically recontextualizes my original 2022 series of Substack posts.

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